A candidate ripped me a new asshole on the phone earlier this week when I gave them some news they weren't expecting and thought was unfair, and oh my gosh did I FEEL the isolation that day. I went into full panic mode, and started questioning everything I did to lead up to that situation. I called my colleagues seeking reassurance, I debriefed with my boyfriend (who had no idea what i was talking about but nodded along in agreement), I took some time out to try take my mind off it and ordered a burger and chips for lunch to eat my sorrows.
I've had difficult discussions before many, many times but I've always had my workmates around me to debrief with and (sometimes) have a laugh with about it. For the REALLY bad conversations, debriefing over a wine with a friend is mandatory. I felt really alone this time around, and calling my colleagues on Teams wasn't cutting it. I needed real life, in person reassurance and comforting, DAMMIT!
I had a massive journaling sesh later that night, and reflected on the situation. I saw things I could definitely have done better, things that were out of my control, and ultimately ... when I looked at everything I had written I knew I had done the right thing even though the outcome hadn't been ideal. Journaling saved me this time around.
It made me think how people that have these sorts of conversations all the time must be feeling in iso? If you work in collections, or another job where you have people ripping you a new one ... how are you doing? Or ... if you have constant tough conversations, are you desensitised now? What are other people's coping mechanisms and wind down techniques after a harrowing day? I WANT TO KNOW! Tell me all ...
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