When I was single - I used to love a cheeky ghosting to avoid a difficult/awkward convo with a guy I was seeing. If I decided I didn’t want to see a guy anymore, I’d just stop talking to him. On the flip side - I was also ghosted (a lot) and thought it was just part of life and the way things were done in the dating world. I hated it when it was done to me, but I also did it to many (MANY😉) boys I dated cause it was just easier than having a convo.
Thank god I met my boyfriend 5 years ago (happy anniversary, Max) and could leave my dirty ghosting past behind me, because it’s hurtful and who KNOWS how many boys are out there right now still wondering whether I died or just ghosted them. Obsessing over my beauty, and dreaming about what could have been. Pining for my love. Who KNOWS?!
This transfers to the professional world - employers ghosting candidates cause they either just don’t care, can’t be fucked, don’t like the candidate, or want to avoid a difficult convo. Recruiters disappearing into the abyss, hiding behind technology leaving candidates wondering where they stand, or whether the recruiter died. It’s a dick move.
I’ve done it before - every recruiter has. Like I said - I loved a good ghosting, so I definitely did it at work too with candidates. I thought it was so much easier to ignore a candidate's repeated requests for an update, incessant questions about a job I had advertised, or asking for some feedback. Ummm how "annoying" (not). I slowly started to learn that a quick email, phone call, even a text msg to a candidate ... was actually EASY, quick and ... kind. Be human!
If you just get back to someone then it stops the situation from escalating, and it becoming "annoying". You make someone feel good, and in return make yourself feel good! It's A WIN/WIN FEEL GOOD SITUATION TO JUST GET BACK TO PEOPLE!
I made a pact with myself many years ago to never shy away from a difficult or “annoying” convo ever again, and to never leave people waiting for a response from me for longer than 24 hours if I can help it. Because a lot of the time ... they’re not even “difficult”, I’ve usually just built that up in my head. Getting back to a candidate who has a query, delivering some constructive feedback, checking in with a candidate to see how they’re going - those things can actually make someone’s day. Imagine having the power to make someone’s day better ... recruiters/hiring managers have that power!
To all the people I ever ghosted professionally ... I’m sorry 😔
If you have applied for a role and been professionally ghosted - tell me about it in the comments below or shoot me a msg. I see you, I hear your, and I’m here for you 🥰
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